Friday, October 31, 2008


Soooo...I've been meaning to blog about vitamins for the last two days. However, the internet has not turned up the kind of info that I can easily use. I search for a bit, and then get busy with real work...search for a bit more, and then get busy once again.
However, the gist of it all is this...I'm tired A LOT of the time. It could be b/c I get up at 5 in the morning several days a week or that it's busy season. However, in reality I am tired at work quite often...even when I get more than enough sleep. Possibly it is boredom, but I am thinking that a good multi-vitamin would help. I was recently on a message board where a number of posters commented that when they were going through periods of heavy fatigue it was b/c they were lacking in iron. After getting on a regular vitamin schedule, then they were back in action. I'm going to give it a try.

In other news...I met w/my partner/mentor last night, and I have a pretty good plan for advancing my career in the short term.

Step A...Identify the 'priority' accounts and work with the scheduler and partners to get on them.

Step B...Schedule a lunch meeting w/my coordinating partner to discuss assisting him with some of his 'pet projects' w/a follow up discussion on my goals.

Step C...Build a relationship w/a key snr. manager who is quickly progressing through the ranks. That will prob kick off w/a lunch meeting next month.

Step D...Identify an area of specialty, which should arise from my conversations in steps B and C.

Sound good?

Wednesday, October 29, 2008


Goals Update!!

Just a quick update on how I've been doing on reaching my professional goals. Last week was quite a busy week for me, which was a good thing. Even though I was completely exhausted by Friday night...I was pleased to see that I am making headway in achieving the goals that I have set for myself.

On the prof. networking side, I've been actively attending NABA events. I participated in a resume critique workshop for our student chapters, a membership reception, and last week I went to a wine tasting. All were good events, and I am getting to know some of the 'regulars'. It was a bit uncomfortable at 1st b/c I didn't really know anyone...and it seemed like everyone else knew one another. However, I'm slowly but surely easing into the social circle. I am also now on the PR committee. Basically, I help update our website, which has a user-friendly GUI. However, I am also coming with ideas on how to enhance and revamp the website so that it is more useful to our members. I'll probably even tap Tea for some advice on how to send out press releases regarding our larger scale activities (community service, student relations, etc).

On the work side...there are two sides to this coin. On the one hand, I am making a lot of headway as the co-chair of our affinity group. We've been regularly sending out good communications to our members, so our name is getting out there. I've gotten ppl to volunteer for several of our firms initiatives with a local inner city high school, which means a great great deal to me (There are so few Black ppl at the firm that I really feel that our presence is invaluable in efforts to re-direct the lives/futures of Black children). We sent out welcome and congratulations packets to all of our new hires and promotees. Most important I hosted our 1st general meeting. There were about 25 attendees which made for an active discussion and an enjoyable happy hour. We weren't able to stay on the agenda, BUT the meeting had lots of interaction and great talking points. One thing that I need to continue to work on is making myself (and my co-chair) more visible to the office leadership. This is a great stepping stone, so ppl need to see our success.

On the other hand, things have been rough for folks in my actual practice. Several ppl were laid off last week, which wasn't an easy thing to deal handle. Thank God, I wasn't one of those ppl. However, I am still struggling with how to really distinguish myself as an invaluable member of the practice. I don't really have a particular area of expertise, which worries me. I think about this all the time, and I'm really hoping to come up with a clear strategy sooner rather than later. I am having dinner with a partner tomorrow night to discuss exactly this issue. Hopefully I will come away with an action plan in place.

So overall...not so bad. I think that I am on-track to advance my career, but I just need to find away to place myself in the 'fast lane'. In this economy...just 'on-track' isn't good enough.

How are things going for everyone else?

What do you do to stay relevant at your job?
Yesterday's Quote of the Day!

"We gonna start the bidding on this b!t@h at $2. Anybody wanna b!t@h? Anybody wanna b!t@h?"

- NeNe...Real Housewives of Atlanta

Tuesday, October 28, 2008


Barack Obama/Joe Biden...that's how the ballot read.

I went out and early voted this weekend, and I must admit...I was one of those ppl who welled up just a bit when I checked the box for the 1st Black Presidential Nominee. There was no real pomp and circumstance on the actual ballot...just a simple 'Obama/Biden'. However, I felt that I was performing one of the most important tasks in my life. I just feel so proud, and I can't explain it. I'm not his mom, nor his campaign manager, nor his wife. Certainly his success is not attributed to me. Yet, I am so proud to see him representing you and me with such grace and poise. I am excited, hopeful, and motivated for the next 8 years in this country's history. I can't wait for Nov 4th!!!! I am truly truly praying that his presidency is ground breaking, transformational, successful, and the start of a new direction for our nation.

If you haven't voted yet, then remember to cast your ballot by Tuesday, Nov 4th. If you've never believed in the political process, then this is the time to give it a try. Never before has there been so much promise for a presidency. Get involved! Make your voice heard! Something tells me that you will not regret this decision.


Go Obama/Biden 2008!!

Monday, October 27, 2008


Soooo...I'm going to be putting my cutie-pie kitty up for adoption soon. I love her, but she just can't live with me any more.

*Le sigh* Where to start? The biggest issue is that I simply don't have time for a pet right now. I work 10 or 11 hours/day, and with an hour commute each way this leaves me with only about 2 or 3 hours to spend with her each day...and much of that time is spent getting ready for the following day. If you know anything about cats, then you know experiences like this can lead to anxiety, which leads to...acting out. It's the acting out that is really driving me crazy. After two years of doing just about everything that I can think of to 'cat proof' my home, I realized yesterday evening that I am living in a prison. She has free reign, while my life and I are confined to the few safe havens that I have carved out. This cannot continue.

However, I just hate the thought of 'sending her away'. She was/is my responsibility, and the idea that I have failed her kills me. Plus she is always a friendly face to come home to. She's sweet and lovable...just a little too mischievous. Anywho, I will definitely miss her when she is gone, and if anyone is looking for a new best friend, then let me know. With the right amount of love and attention, she's an angel.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Shout out to my Girl!!

I love this post from my girl, Kismet. I am not a writer, no a historian...yet we all play a role in the story that will become the history of tomorrow and the day after.

In particular, this paragraph caught my attention the most:

"Ellison emphasizes the individual as an artist, the individual as a person (man) of color growing and creating in this world. As a woman of color that doesn't apply to me. It doesn't apply to the women I am researching, women who survived slavery not by standing alone in their unique experience but because they drew on networks and knowledge of their mothers, aunts, and sisters (and fathers, brothers, and lovers) before them. And alongside them. And passed those resources on, which were worth more than money, because a wealth in people* replenishes itself."

Check out the whole post and think for a moment on your 'role'. I hope that while I have no intentions of changing the world...I am surely changing the lives of those around me for the better.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008


Trade up to healthier treats

Women (and Men) cannot live on carrots alone. And why should we? Even the most dedicated dieters crave the occasional doughnut, burger or cookie. The truth is, you should indulge from time to time. Ignoring your urges will only set you up for overeating later. So swap your favorite high-calorie goodies for the bites below; they are equally tasty but better for you. Go on—give in without undoing your diet. No guilt!

Read the rest of the article by Heather Jones, RD here.

Monday, October 20, 2008

(Elsheba Khan at the grave of her son, Specialist Kareem Rashad Sultan Khan.)


Most of you know that Senator Barack Obama was recently endorsed to become the next POTUS by Gen. Colin Powell. The pic above was mentioned in his interview on Meet The Press, and it think that it is quite profound. I just wanted to share it with all of you.

It was the best of times...it was the worst of times...you know the rest.

I was reflecting on how the year 2008 has progressed, and that was the 1st sentence that came to mind. If nothing else, I can say that this year has been transformational. My life is different and so am I.

I started out the year by proving to myself that I can be disciplined and strong-willed during the Biggest Loser competition. Although I had previously lost weight, I showed myself that I could stand on my own, stick to my commitment, and push through a tough time. Moreso than the actual weightloss...the experience really changed me.

Then I visited a new country and continent, which was truly amazing. I once heard someone say that the world is like a book, and without traveling it is as though you never turn the pages. Well I turned to a new chapter with this trip. It was exciting, scary, educational, and of course tons of fun. I'll never forget it, and I've got a hunger for more! Go Paris 2009!

On the other hand...my personal life went in a whole new direction, and my car has given me never-ending problems. *Le Sigh* Q3 has been rough. However, I think that I have grown and gained a new level of inner strength, faith, and maturity. Besides, it's not good to think of a period in your life as 'all bad', so we'll just say that the last few months have provided me with a wonderful and exciting opportunity to develop into a better person...and I think that I have. Score one point for me!

Anyway...there are two months left in the year, and I'm confident that they will be great! We are going to elect the 1st Black President of the United States and then we can celebrate with the holidays (a time to give thanks and enjoy family...and of course, food). What could be better!

I say all of this to say...2008 is almost gone. Take a moment to reflect. Have you met your goals? Are you pleased with the progress? If not, then there are two months left to get it together. Don't wait until the new year to get things back on track. Get moving RIGHT NOW! There is no reason to not end every year with a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment :-)

Friday, October 17, 2008


WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING IN MY LIFE!!!!!



How can the freaking car be vandalized twice in one month. I need deliverance!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

I know there are only 16 days left, but if you need a mini-pick me up, then checkout one of the many spa services being offered at discounted prices for breast cancer awareness month. It won't be the 'full monty', but maybe a quick 30 mins is all that you need to re-set your clock. View deals taking place in your city here.

Today I am conflicted.

On the one hand I am my usual optimistic self. I smile when I think about how blessed I am right now...can we say Y'amen to having a job in this economy? I laugh when I think about some of the great memories and experiences that I've had. (I hear that memories and experiences are what really matter at the end of it all.) Most important, I hope when I think about the possibilities for my future. Who knows what lies ahead? I don't but it could be anything wonderful...better than you every hoped for, and that's exciting!

I focus on being a good person, living up to my beliefs/principles, and being able to love and be proud of who I am. Even when I fall short of this, I am happy that tomorrow is another day and a new opportunity to achieve my goals.

So here's the conflict...I am tired :-( Not just 'I need sleep' tired, though that is also true, but rather the 'stuck in a rut...not being fulfilled' tired. Yesterday I got up at 5 to work out (hated it!), spent 12 hours at work (hated it!), returned home/packed lunch/got ready for bed/asleep by 9:30...soooo that I could wake up at 5 this morning and begin the cycle again. At the end of yesterday, I felt that I had done nothing with my day to make me happy. I know this is partially due to busy season (normally I am home around 7 and can read or chat on the phone in the evening), however it was still disheartening to give every minute of your day to your 'obligations' rather than your pleasures.

I'm not sure what the solution is right now. I've made some adjustments (working out on Sat, so that I only have to get up early 3 days out of the week/ making a concerted effort to only work 10 hours at least 2 days a week), so I am waiting for those to pay off. Until then I guess I have to grit my teeth and bare it through the rest of the season. Busy season ends at Thanksgiving, so it'll be nice to have my schedule free up during a time of celebration. Plus, there's always shopping to make me happy (and bwoy does it make me happy!)...and planning vacation. Tea, what's good for your b-day? You might want to try something smaller (4 ppl max) to minimize planning efforts. On that note...I'm off to look up group trips to Paris!

Monday, October 13, 2008


Well, I weighed in this morning, and I'm still at 177lbs. Meh. I'm not really phased by this, though. I stayed on my exercise schedule and ate properly last week. There are some things that I can do better this week, but ultimately...I felt that last week was a good snapshot of how my life should be. Regular exercise, and smart food choices (not counting calories or longing for every sweet that passes me by).

PLUS, I read an advertisement over the weekend that said "Sexy is...liking who you are." I'd have to agree with that...we've all seen that completely WACK girl who has so much confidence, that she has tricked everyone else into thinking that she's fly. Well, I'm not into trickery, but I do think there is a bit of sensuousness about a woman who loves what she has going on and expects you to love it too. So, while I really felt that I 'had it going on' at 160 lbs, my main goal is to stay on an exercise schedule and eat wisely. After that, I'm cool with wherever my body takes me.


Now on to other things...vacation...where should I go this year? There is a chance that I will be traveling alone, so I don't really want to leave the country this go round. I want to do something fun and enjoyable (but not necessarily meant for two or more ppl). A friend took a trip along the California coast last year...that's an option. You can roll out solo, enjoy the beautiful scenery, visit some new cities, and use the experience as an opportunity for self-reflection. Not a bad get away.



I am also thinking of maybe trying to find a spa, but I have a feeling that trips like those are for the ballers. However, if I could afford it, then I could spend a couple of days in complete relaxation, self-reflection, meditation, and let's not forget SHOPPING. Any other ideas?

Friday, October 10, 2008


This is how I feel today, so I want to share the smile with all of you. It's a beautiful day, I discovered these amazing pics of my sister-friend, and the future (whatever it may hold) is shining brightly. Isn't that great!


Thursday, October 09, 2008

Yes, I did just come back from celebrating a co-worker's birthday at Chuck E. Cheese. It was just as awesomely great as it ever was. I feel NO embarrassment at having to call ahead of time to confirm that there are no rules against 16 adults and no kids.

Ok...back on topic. I did yoga on Monday and swam on Tuesday. This has been a long week, causing me to sleep in on Wed and Thursday, so I will need to do yoga tomorrow and swim Saturday in order to finish strong. The eating has been right on track (except for Chuck E. Cheese)...I've stayed away from the snack box, only ate when I was actually hungry, and chose low-cal/low-fat options. If I can keep this up, then I will be back on the right path. I am grocery shopping on Sat, so I can begin preparing meals for lunch and dinner. I'm also going to try my raw food recipe below, but I must admit that I am not very excited about it. We will see how it goes.

Lastly, I came across this article on Work/Life Balance, that I wanted to share. As I noted, this has been a long week for me, so I'm going to try to utilize a few of the five tips discussed below.

1. Figure Out What Really Matters to You in Life


2. Drop Unnecessary Activities


3. Protect Your Private Time


4. Accept Help to Balance Your Life


5. Plan Fun and Relaxation

Check out the entire article on WebMD.com for further explanation.

Tuesday, October 07, 2008


Aaaahhhh, food...how I love thee!

But like all great love affairs...sometimes it's just not good for you. The trick is to be able to discern those high quality, healthy options that leave you feeling satisfied and guilt-free. Now, if you're like me, then you aren't really one for cooking...sorry, I keep trying, but it hasn't panned out yet. Therefore, I eat out or on the go quite often. This makes it even harder to find a good healthy meal. Here are some tips on what to avoid and what to order at your favorite restaurants.

CHINESE

What to avoid: Sweet-and-sour pork or chicken. Those dough boys are little more than tiny bits of meat encased in greasy gobs of fat and sugar. Moo shu pork and egg rolls are also alarmingly high in calories.

What to order: Anything sautèed, or in garlic or Szechwan sauce. Beef and broccoli and chicken chow mein are also clear winners. To make 'em better, order steamed veggies and mix them together.

GREEK

What to avoid: Stuffed grape leaves, spinach pie, and moussaka. Even a small serving of these dishes has more calories than your standard fast-food fare. Gyros aren't much better — most are drowned in mayonnaise-like sauce.

What to order: Meat and veggies on a skewer (souvlaki or kebabs, depending on the menu). Lamb or pork are decent choices, but in most cases chicken and steak are better (since the meat is grilled, most of the excess fat and calories drain away).

INDIAN

What to avoid: Foods with massala, pasanda, or korma in their name. All are types of fat-laden, super-spicy entrees. One serving of lamb pasanda, for example, contains nearly 1,000 calories, 56 grams of fat, and 4,800 mg of sodium.

What to order: Grilled or roasted dishes, such as tandoori chicken — marinated chicken cooked at a very high temperature. Or pick vegetable dishes, such as aloo gobi or vegetable curry, which are both high in fiber and vitamins.

ITALIAN

What to avoid: Fettuccine Alfredo, obviously. Say ciao, as well, to other calorie-dense chow like cheese ravioli, manicotti, and eggplant parmigiana. Sure, the last item is vegetable-based, but that eggplant soaks up oil and grease like a sponge, making it one of the very worst things on any Mom and Pop menu.

What to order: Spaghetti or ziti, with either marinara or clam sauce. To get your protein fix, order a meatball or two on the side, rather than "meat sauce," which has significantly less meat. If the portion is huge — covering more than half your plate — wrap it up and take it home for later.

JAPANESE

What to avoid: Turn up your chops to all batter-dipped and fried foods, especially tempura and spider rolls. High-fat foods, such as duck and eel, are also high-calorie no-nos.

What to order: Tuna, cucumber, and California sushi rolls all deliver the right nutritional punch. Plus, they come in set portions, so you don't have to worry about overeating.

MEXICAN

What to avoid: Chimichangas, enchiladas, or anything fried or drenched in sauce or cheese — which can more than triple your meal's calorie wallop. Also steer clear of jean-bursting sides, like refried beans, rice, or nacho with cheese.

What to order: Simple a la carte items made with whole ingredients, such as beans, chicken, steak, and salsa. Burritos, fajitas, and small taco salads are ideal picks. Choose guacamole over cheese or sour cream — it has more vitamins and heart-healthy fats.

Article from Men's Fitness.

Monday, October 06, 2008

Well I haven't had to hit the road in quite a while, but I know that there are many of you hopping on and off of planes each week. As I was checking out CNN's travel site, I came across this resource page that I hope might do some of you a bit of good. Hope that you find the info helpful.
Register to vote TODAY!!!

If you need info on how and where to register or vote, then check out www.voteforchange.com.


I have a confession. I knew that the snacking and unhealthy eating that I've been doing was having an effect on my body. My tummy has been poking and my slacks have been snugger. However, I had been avoiding the scale and promising to do better the next day. Well, this morning I decided to commit to a fresh start with my healthy life-style. In order to do this, then I had to face the music...or shall we say, the numbers. I climbed on and weighed in at 177lbs.

Now some of you may remember that this is only 2 lbs less than when we began the Biggest Loser challenge 10 months ago, and a far cry from the 153 lb at which I ended the competition 7 months ago. How do I feel about this? Of course, I'm sad and disappointed that I undid soooo much of my hard work. I really LOVED my body at the time, and I cannot say the same right now. However, I do feel a bit encouraged. Despite the weight gain my new clothes still fit (though a bit tighter) and my old clothes are still loose). Plus, I am already working out regularly, so I don't have to begin a new regimen. Most important, I already know that I can lose weight, so this doesn't seem like such an insurmountable challenge.

I guess I just wish that I had done a better job with maintaining my weight. I'm kinda tired of being on a 'weight-loss' campaign. I just want to be at my goal or 'happy weight' and stay there. I guess I'll be doing some research on how to maintain weight loss, so be on the lookout for that. In the mean-time, I am back off of sweets and greasy foods. The goal weight is 160 lbs, which is where I was most pleased during the biggest loser. I am mostly focused on losing weight consistently and healthily until I reach my goal weight. However, if I had to set a time line it would be 160 lbs by Christmas. I'll be posting weekly updates to keep myself in check.

Don't worry...the blog is not going back to all weight loss all the time. I kinda like the diversity that I've brought into it, so I'll keep trying to post info that betters us mentally, spiritually, and physically.

Wednesday, October 01, 2008

You know you want it raw...

LOL! Get your mind out of the gutter ppl. I DID NOT mean it like that. What I mean is you want to eat it raw...ummm...I mean food, you want to try a raw food diet. Whew!

I have heard quite a bit about individuals who only eat raw foods...uncooked, fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and sprouted grains. I myself haven't really pursued this lifestyle myself...beyond a salad. However, a few months ago a good friend of mine posted that she was giving raw a try. I meant to speak on this here, but the topic slipped away from me.

I have found that this diet can be very healthful, and I wanted to share some of the facts. Allisa Cohen is a raw foods advocate, and here is some of the information that I found on her website:

-"When food is cooked at over 112 degrees (this temperature can be felt as warm to the touch) we destroy all of its enzymes. This is a problem because we need enzymes for every function in our body. To walk, to talk, to breathe and to move; life itself depends on them. As we age, our bodies natural source of enzymes becomes depleted and we need to replenish this source through the foods we eat. If we do not do this and we continue to eat cooked foods, then we eventually begin to use up our body’s enzyme reserves. Cooking makes it harder for our bodies to break up and digest the foods that we eat. This food then begins to get stored in our bodies as toxins; which can lead to all kinds of diseases and illness."

- "There are numerous benefits to eating a raw and living food diet. Some of these benefits include people healing themselves of diabetes, fibromyalgia, acne, migraines, back pain, neck and joint pain, asthma, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, hypoglycemia, colitis, diverticulitis, Candida, arthritis, serious allergies, depression, anxiety, mood swings, heartburn, gas, bloating, skin diseases, obesity, chronic fatigue, cancers and many more. Excess weight seems to just melt off your body when you eat a raw and living food diet! The raw and living food diet has helped many people feel better when nothing else has worked."

Sooo...in the spirit of giving things the old college try...I am going to prepare a raw meal. Here is what I have selected. Raw walnut tacos:

The shell will be a fresh leaf of romaine lettuce.

The 'meat' filling is as follows:
  • 1½ cups raw walnuts, ground in food processor
  • 1½ teaspoons ground cumin
  • ¾ teaspoon ground coriander
  • 2 teaspoons Nama Shoyu or Braggs
  • pinch cayenne
The cheese topping is as follows:

  • 1 cup raw cashews, sunflower seeds or almonds
  • ½ large red bell pepper
  • ¼ cup water
  • 2 tablespoons lemon juice
  • 2 tablespoons nutritional yeast
  • 1 tablespoon tahini
  • 1½ teaspoons sea salt
  • 1 clove garlic
  • 2 teaspoons onion powder (or a small slice of onion or 1 Tbsp of green onion)
I'm going to top it with a bit of Pico de Gallo:
  • 1 pint cherry tomatoes, halved or quarterd - depending on size
  • ½ small yellow onion, diced
  • 1 cup cilantro, chopped
  • 4 cloves garlic, minced
  • 2 lemons, juiced
  • 1½ teaspoons ground cumin
  • ¾ teaspoon ground corriander
  • ¾ teaspoon celtic sea salt
  • ¼ teaspoon cayenne
  • 1 tablespoon cold pressed olive oil (optional)
I'll let you know how it comes out. For more info on living raw.. try Alissa Cohen's website or Raw Food Talk.